How Strategic Are Your Friendships?
It sounds self serving, but should our friendships be strategic? Somehow the words friendship and strategy should never appear together, right? Before you dismiss the concept altogether, consider that a strategy is an intentional pursuit of a goal. I have key strategic friendships in my life. These are not self-serving, one-way relationships. That’s not a friendship. But relationships that are two-way conversations. They are shared story lines that intercept in time and create a common narratives for two people. I have strategic friendships because I need the perspective, input and companionship of friends who help me grow in the areas I’m most deficient. However, I pray that I can give more to my friend than what I get from them.
I have friends who challenge and guide me spiritually. I can always count on them to probe deeper and hold me accountable to my personal spiritual growth.
I have friends who stimulate me professionally. I love learning from people who have a mind for business and are doing well.
I have friends who push me physically. Fitness is a big part of my daily routine. I run, cycle, lift weights and my athlete friends keep me accountable. I wrote more about them here.
I have friends who share with me a difference perspective in life. The older I get the more I tend to live in a bubble. And my bubble seems to get smaller every day. I have friends outside my demographic and psychographic bubble. They are in different stages of life than me and their world view helps me see life through their eyes.
I have strategic friendships who are outside the faith. It’s difficult for me to be “salt and light” and only associate with believers. While I pray that they’ll have an life-changing encounter with God, I never minimize the importance of our relationship. These are good friends.