I’m glad I didn’t give up on the relationship. I was disappointed and thought that it was time to sever ties. But I didn’t. And I have not regretted my decision. Have you ever given up on a friend, a coworker, a client? If you are like me chances are you have. So before you let a relationship “go” consider:
Find a proper time and place to let them know how you feel. You should not “let them have it” when you’re upset or in the middle of a bad day. Sometimes your bad day gets folded into the emotion of the discussion.
No matter the response, promise yourself you will not react–only listen. During a difficult conversation I am more interested in getting my point across than listening.
Reflect on the conversation and try to put yourself in their shoes.
Examine your motives. Why are you really upset? (This one usually gets me) I tend to justify my personal hangups on the crucible of business and reason.
What’s your part in it? I remember hearing a friend say this years ago: there’s his side, her side and the truth.
How would Jesus handle this? I know this sounds trite, but for the Christian that’s our example and guide through life. Jesus is our model for living.
What else would you ad to this list?