I’ve been asked to write about how Christian men should communicate on dates by some of the single readers of this blog (all 3 of them). Since I have not been single in over 20 years, I’ve asked my friend KelcieKay Sberna to help me out by sharing her experience in the dating scene. Here’s her account.
This is a list that I have compiled over the past couple years; years filled with bad dates and creepy suitors. I have a career in ministry so I find that my dates are usually evangelical men 25-30 years of age. These are all actual accounts from my dates, however fictitious they might sound. I will marry the man of God who doesn’t commit any of the following crimes.
Sending flowers the day of the date is an excellent idea. However, attaching a note that says “Imagine how much more romantic I will be later” is not. You might as well have written “I’m going to lock you in a basement and make a coat of your skin.”
Words of affirmation may not be your love language. But please don’t throw out compliments like: “You’re beautiful! And the cool thing is that my mom used to say, ‘where beauty lacks in one area of the body it will usually make up for it in another area.’ So you are blessed!” What the heck is that supposed to mean?!?!
Speaking of mothers, it’s always a good sign when a son treats his mother well. It tells a lot about how he treats women. However, “my mother is sexy. I hope my wife looks like her some day. Can I see a picture of your mom?” is just wrong.
I don’t mind movie buffs; however, asking me if I am on Team Jacob or Team Edward and then giving me a 6-point thesis as to why I should be on Team Edward will assure you of no second date. At least not a with a female.
A good Christian man should always take the lead and bless the food before dinner. But please, do not pray this prayer out loud during the date: “And God, should this be the woman I am to marry, please let her spirit speak to her quickly, as the spirit has already spoken to me. For you are the ultimate matchmaker. And bless the food and conversation, amen.” CHECK PLEASE!
What’s the worst date moment of your life?