Author: Maurilio Amorim

  • Tricking Your Children. A Bad Parenting Moment.

    There a a lot of books and blogs on good parenting. Focus on the Family has been helping Christian parents for decades. A lot of family experts talk about “teachable moments.” My contribution to parenting comes from a different angle altogether: what not to do. From time to time, I’ll share with you some of my “unteachable parenting moments.” Hopefully they’ll prevent you from making the same mistake with your offspring. Here’s a Bad Parenting Moment you should not repeat.

    Tricking your children into going on a scary ride will not get them passed their fear of rides, but it will ruin the rest of your Disney vacation.

    Tower of Terror and bad parenting

    That was my brilliant idea several years ago when we took the boys, age 5 and 9 to their first trip to Disney. My rational was simple: ride the scariest ride on all  of Disney World early on the first day. Once they’ve gone through it and lived, they would look forward to go any other ride in the entire park. Nope.

    The Tower of Terror was our first ride on our first day. I omitted some key points about the attraction when I told them there was a cool movie inside. I failed to mention that there was an 13-store elevator drop. Make that an over-and-over elevator drop.

    My plan back fired. “You tricked us. You lied to us,” the white knuckled, shaking and visibly upset children confronted me afterwards. “But you made it, and wasn’t it fun?” “NO!!!” On the second hour of our week-long vacation, the boys were not willing to go on any other remotely thrilling ride. After this harrowing experience even the Mad Hatter’s Tea Cups looked threatening. It was a very long week for all of us.

    Have you ever tried to trick you children in doing something and backfired?

    Please do share. It will make me feel better.

  • White Belt: A Guys’ Guide for Wearing it Well

    The white belt has been a men’s fashion accessory for a long time. In the past, it has been paired exclusively with summer white linen pants or shorts and white shoes. However, in the recent years, it has become a trend in men’s fashion beyond polo matches or resort wear. Unfortunately some guys are violating the white belt rules.

    White belt violation
    So many infractions on one single incident!

    Here’s some rules to keep in mind:

    1.     No white belt with black shoes

    2.     No white belt with pleats (no pleats…period)

    3.     No white belt with black plants

    4.     No white belt if your belly covers the buckle

    white belt tshirt tucked
    Same white belt a whole difference effect. This guy is rocking the belt with the t-shirt tucked in to showcase the buckle.
    white belt gray jeans
    Nice pairing with gray jeans.
    White belt white pants
    More of a traditional usage of the white belt: white pants and linen.

    How do you feel about the white belt?

  • Refueling My Creativity with Cirque du Soleil

    Nothing fuels my creative juices more than experiencing creativity on steroids. I get inspired, challenged, stretched and motivated to push my creative boundaries outwardly. But one would think that after watching the same production four times over a decade would get old. In most cases I would agree, but not when it comes to a Cirque du Soleil production, and specifically, La Nouba.

    While this might come across as cliche, La Nouba cannot be described in words or even pictures. It must be experienced. Really. The best way I can convey some meaningful and yet deficient description is by calling it a theatrical, acrobatic, musical and multi-media show that will have your head spinning and your mouth dropping and your heart racing for a solid one and a half hours. Interestingly, the producers created the show and then built the theater to fit it. The entire experience is perhaps the most creative production I’ve ever attended–and that’s even after more than a decade from its first performance.

    la nola nouba gymnasts la-nouba Disney

    La Nouba Diabolos Pyramide
    These little girls are my favorite. Absolutely amazing skills!

    How do you refuel your creativity?

  • Church Branding or Marketing? What’s the Difference?

    If “marketing” was the church’s buzzword for the ‘90s, “branding” is definitely the new, upstart concept when it comes to communications these days. So what makes the new millennium’s branding better than last century’s marketing strategy? A lot, if we understand the differences between them.

    Church Branding or Marketing?

    Branding and marketing both aim at communicating a product, an institution, even a person to a particular audience. This whole process happens solely in the mind. In this case, perception is reality—for good or bad. Most of what marketing does is build a brand—create a favorable reality in the minds of our target audience. A marketing campaign’s effectiveness is measured in months, but a brand’s strength is calculated in years, even decades. Each marketing effort should help define, position, and strengthen the brand.

    Recently, the Old Spice campaign featuring Isaiah Mustafa has sold a lot of deodorant to men who want to be more Isaiah and to wives who wished their husbands looked like Isiah. The once tired, old-man brand got a new face, new energy and lots of new sales through a shift in brand positioning.

    So what about the church? How should we view the branding dilemma? First of all, we must remember that as far as the church is concerned, marketing is simply communication. Jesus commanded us in Luke 14:23 to go into the highways and lanes and “compel” them to come in. And for marketing to build a brand, it must be deliberate, systematic, and consistent.

    Deliberate. Before we can begin to build a brand, we must know our branding statement and position. “We are a church; that’s our position,” you might argue. But within the category of churches, yours should have its own identity, calling, niche, passion, or however you want to define your uniqueness. That’s a deliberate message you need to continue to share, and it should always come through in your communication strategy.

    Systematic. I was fortunate to be in on the birth and growth of a church that reached megachurch status in a very short period of time. Our brand statement was, “Real Hope for Real People in the Real World.” And boy, did we keep it real! The way we used music, graphic arts and language reflected a church very much in tune with popular culture. We wanted to keep it real and we did. “The church for people who don’t like church,” some would say. That was our brand. We drove home the message online, on every direct mail piece, radio and television spot. And it worked.

    Consistent. “We tried this before; it didn’t work.” These are the famous last seven words of the dying church. You must be consistent with the message and with your efforts to continue to reach your community for Christ. Your strategy might change from one medium to another, but your consistency in message and focus should reinforce your brand. A strong visual logo is always a good way to build your brand. Lakewood Church in Houston, TX does a great job with branding. At every opportunity, Lakewood lets you know that, “We believe in you!” Don’t give up after a few tries. Consistency pays dividends in the long run. Be patient, stick with it, and you will see results.

    As you help your church through communication issues, remember to make sure you have a compelling brand statement that will be part of your marketing strategy for a long time. A good brand statement will add value to the reader and give him or her a new incentive to visit your church: “we believe in you.” Build that brand every chance you have: bulletins, letterhead, business cards, websites, billboards, radio spots, television spots, etc. Remember that you cannot over use your brand statement. You might be sick of it after a few years, but to some it will be a new revelation. You know you’re doing a good job when you hear someone new to the church repeat it back to you. Oh, that’s always music to my years.

    Does your church have a brand statement? What is it?

  • A Miraculous Easter Sunday

    I think it was Bill Hybels who said that “The Church is still the hope of the world”–not in a means unto itself, but as the messenger and conduit in which God uses it to reach out to those outside the faith and bring them into communion with Himself and with His people. Late Saturday my friend and client, Sal Sberna sent me a picture of his Easter service rehearsal. He gave me a challenge: why not text some of your clients and ask them to send you phone pics of their Easter services and share them with your team on Monday?

    As the pictures and reports of what God had done in many of these services came through my phone on Sunday, I felt compelled to share them not only with my team but with you as well. These pictures reflect literally hundreds of thousands of people who attended a service over the past weekend. Several thousands (over 4 thousand in one church alone!) have come to faith in Christ because these houses of hope reached out to them with the good news of the gospel. I’m so thankful to walk alongside men and women who are making such an incredible difference.

    Church of the King Easter 2011
    Church of the King, New Orleans LA
    The MEt Church Houston Easter 2011
    The Met, Houston TX
    Cross Point Easter 2011
    Cross Point, Nashville TN
    Seacoast Easter 2011
    Seacoast Church, Charleston SC
    Biltmore Easter 2011
    Biltmore Baptist, Asheville NC
    Living Word Ministries Easter 2011
    Living Word Church, New Haven CT
    First Baptist Church Jacksonville
    First Baptist Church, Jacksonville FL

    Cross Church Easter 2011
    Cross Church, NW Arkansas
    Igreja Familiar First Baptist W Palm Springs
    La Iglesia Familiar/ First Baptist Church, West Palm Beach FL

    The People's Church Easter 2011

    The People’s Church, Franklin TN
    Church of the Highlands Easter 2011
    Church of the Highlands, Birmingham AL

    How was your Easter service?

  • Runner Encouragement

    Yesterday I ran alone. Saturdays are my long runs and I’m thankful for a group of friends that keep me accountable and entertained, but no one was running, so I went solo.  I started late and wasn’t particularly happy about being alone until I ran into a large running group from Fleet Feet.

    The route of the large marathon training group was opposite to mine so I went by what seem to be hundreds of runners for the first 4 miles of my run. The runners up front were focused on their fast pace with perfect form and determination on their faces. Knowing runners’ etiquette, I smiled and waved as I passed by. Once I turned the corner, I realized that this was a very large group, and that I would be smiling and waving a whole lot. But then it hit me: “I’ll smile and encourage these guys on. I have nothing better to do anyway.” I’m glad I did.

    Runners Encouragement

    Those on the back of the line, the slow runners, novices who might be having their first race experience, were as determine as the speedsters leading the group, but their labored faces and struggling form made the run a lot more arduous on them than most of the front runners. I smiled and waved even more for them. I kept grinning and saying “good morning!” Most of them would lift their heads up, smile back and put a little zip back into their tired stride. I loved seeing that happen.

    It didn’t cost me anything to smile, wave and be pleasant–perhaps some energy and effort. But it made a difference to some of the tired runners who found encouragement in a stranger’s face. I have that option every day in all my exchanges. Whether I’m running in my neighborhood, walking through an airport or perusing through a grocery store isle.

    I know that some of my friends in the northeast find eye contact unnerving, but I would challenge you to take time to smile and encourage someone today. It will not cost you anything and it might just be the kindness that they need.

    When was the last time someone encouraged you in a meaningful way?

  • You Cannot Hate People into Heaven

    “God hates gays” said on the front of the hateful bright yellow t-shirt. The girl wearing it didn’t look much older than my son. She could have been a high school student or someone in her early twenties. Two days ago as I walked by the corner where protesters of the Lady Gaga show stood on the streets of Nashville, I couldn’t help but notice the scene. For some reason this young woman was further away from the rest of the angry pack. I felt compelled to talk to her, but our exchange broke my heart.

    You cannot hate people into belief in God

    I didn’t want to shout or call attention to us and attract the rest of her angry clan, so I quietly walked up to hear and said, “My dear, God hates sin, but He Loves people. He cannot hate gay people. He died for them.” She jumped to attention as if not expecting my words and mumbled something that sounded like misquoted Scriptures. I tried again to reason with her: “We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. He loves us no matter where we are or have been.” She stop making eye contact and walked away from me mumbling something I didn’t understand.

    Can we hate, antagonize, shame, or ridicule people into belief in God? Can an angry-filled protest drive those who need hope the most into the arms of a hateful god? Of course not. It broke my heart to see and hear Christianity being represented by hatred. That’s not the God I worship nor the gospel message I’ve read in the Bible, but somehow it was the only message on that busy street corner.

    I’m not sure what the answer is, but should those of us who worship a loving God have protested the protester  by wearing  a “God Loves Gay People” t-shirt? Is that the answer?

    Too often hatred speaks out while love watches silently.

    We must do something about that. While I try to figure out my responsibility in this dilemma, I know one thing for sure: hatred will never lead anyone to faith in God.

    What should our responsibility be, if any, to the hateful protests in the name of Christianity?

  • It’s Time to Rethink the Welcome Center Experience

    Welcome centers are at heart of the experience in most service-oriented businesses and churches. The idea is a good one: create a focal point that allows newcomers to find the information they need in order to have the best experience possible. But I think we have missed the point on implementation, specially churches. Somehow we have bought into the idea that a counter-service type of approach is the optimum way to welcome someone. It isn’t.

    The problem with most welcome centers is the foundational assumption it creates by the virtue of its design: a counter fortress where staff or volunteers stand  behind waiting for those seeking help to engage them. Some are quite elaborate constructions in the middle to atriums and concourses with computers and flat screens.  To me that’s not a welcome station; it’s a help desk. It puts the entire ownership of the process on the new person. In my experience, volunteers who stand behind welcome desks find a way to entertain themselves by carrying on spirited conversations with each other while those in need of help have to “break in” to get their questions answered.

    old church welcome center
    cluttered counters and we-can't-help-you-because-we-are-locked-behind-this-desk attitude has to go

    Years ago I visited a church with a beautiful state-of-the art welcome center. It was a 360 marvel of modern craftsmanship with steel, granite and glass and had 6 large flat screens around its outer parameter. But it seemed unattended until I walked up and heard voices coming from the middle of the structure. Inside I found two septuagenarians sipping coffee and carry on a conversation that by the sound of it, had started in 1979. I asked where to go and without getting up one of the men pointed to a sign on the opposite wall and said “follow the green line.” Behind me was the confusing diagram of a church that look like it had been put together by a committee of unhappy people and different color lines took you different places.

    In contrast, recently I stayed at an Embassy Suites Hotel. Their check in area was not a long counter as most hotels, but a few small individual stations where workers can easily walk around and engage newcomers. I love this approach because it allows the people behind the desks an easy way to walk towards those who need help and engage them one on one without the physical barrier of the counter in between. The young man who checked me in the hotel saw me coming and walked towards me saying “welcome to our hotel. Let me check you in over here,” and led me to his free-standing station.

    Welcome Center Ideal
    These small desks allow for easy access and creates a much more personal experience

    Like a truly welcomed and expected guest, I found that the gracious host had come to greet me at the door instead of my having to walk up to the counter, wait for someone to stop talking or looking at computer screen in order to get help. This check in was a much more personal and welcoming experience. When I asked directions to the second tower elevators, the young man walked from behind the desk and took me within the line of sight of the elevators.

    I hope more churches and service organizations will rethink their guest welcome strategies. The counter service mindset is not as welcoming as you think.

    What has been your experience with welcome centers?

  • What To Do With a Bad Day

    I thought I was getting out on an early flight home. Time was tight but this was a small airport and my gate was literally less than 10 feet from security. I heard my name called over the intercom as I was collecting my bags. The TSA agent wanted to do extra screening of one of my bags, of course, so I stepped aside, made eye contact with the gate agent and yelled out “I’m here. I’ll be there as soon as they let me go.”

    What to do when you're having a bad day

    Within a couple of minutes I was ready to board. I didn’t expect what I heard, “Sorry, the flight is closed. You’re going to have to take the next one.”  “You have got to be kidding me!” I was just incredulous.  “Didn’t you see and hear me?” I asked the agent who didn’t bother looking up from the computer. “I waited over 4 minutes.” She didn’t budge. I will not write down the thoughts that flooded my mind on what to say to this woman. The only thing I said was “one day when you’re trying to get home you’ll run into someone like you and you’ll know how this feels like.”

    But this is not a blog about the bad service experience from the American Airlines agent, but what happened afterwards. Moments later I had a great exchange with a couple of young people at the snack area across from the gate. They witness my whole ordeal and were sympathetic: “man, that really stinks.” After much debate and discussion we figured out how to get a low carb, low fat, high protein meal out of their limited and mostly fried menu.

    As I ate my double turkey wheat wrap, I thought of my predicament, which in light of everything else in life wasn’t much of one at all. I readjusted my attitude and decided that perhaps my purpose in being there longer was to bless instead of blast someone. Trust me, that’s not usually what goes through my mind when I’m stranded in small airports. I got up, walked up to the helpful young man behind the counter and gave him a tip.

    A very big tip.

    His eyes got big and he looked back at me, and before he could say anything, I said, “thank you for working hard and doing your job well.” Instantly I settled down. Just a few minutes before I was plotting on how to push the sour gate agent downstairs while making it look like an accident, but now I was enjoying the reaction of my new best friend at the snack bar. “This has turned out ok,” I thought to myself.

    My personal challenge and I’ll extend it to you as well is a simple one: next time our day doesn’t go as planned, instead of letting the circumstances makes us mad, let’s focus that energy into blessing someone else—particularly someone whom we’ll never see again. That might just make all the difference.

    What’s your most memorable bad day? What happened?

  • Is Your Church Hard to Get In?

    The natural tendency of things is to go from simple to complex. It happens in businesses and it certainly happens in churches. Size, resources, both financial as well a people, dictate a lot of what a church can do in its infancy. But growing organizations, by nature of growth, become increasingly sophisticated and, thus more complex. Unwittingly, churches develop their own language and culture and a set of assumptions about their organization. One of the most dangerous of these assumptions is that the church’s internal culture is a mirror of its community, and, therefore, easy for newcomers to understand.

    Is Your Church Hard to Get In?

    I can think of so many examples, but one that comes to mind is the way churches have creative names for every age-group ministry: Fuse, Stretch, MainStreet, The Loft, to name a few. Familiarity causes staff to drop the most important of denominators, the age descriptor. What started out as Fuse (Middle School Group) ends up being just “Fuse.” Who knows what that is? Well, the people who have been around the longest and are now in charge of the thing. I have seen signs that read “Stretch this way.”  I did stretch  after my run, so I’m OK for now. You know where this is going.

    Large churches have multiple ministries with their own identity and communication needs. Left alone, this becomes a multi-layered communication nightmare within other internal ministries that are trying to do their jobs effectively but are led by good-hearted people who see only their piece of the pie, but if you bring all these pieces together, the pie is quite large and not very appetizing. It’s too much. So we complicate a bit more, creating a few more brochures throwing in 10 more cool logos to go along with the 255 already existing ones.

    This is a tough battle to win. But in order to be effective and continue to reach out to people outside the faith, churches need to simplify and streamline their organizational and communications structures. My company, The A Group, develops complicated software that is yet very simple to operate. Churches should do the same at the experiential level. A good question to ask from time to time is, “how hard are we making for people to get in?” But don’t answer that question in a staff meeting. Ask someone new who visited for the first time last weekend. They’ll have a entire different perspective than you.

    How easy is your church to get in? Is it simple for people to plug in, or do they have to work hard to break their way in?