As much as we love to talk about the excitement of new experiences and opportunities, we generally don’t like change; we don’t like uncertainty. Think about it, most of the time we’ll:
order our favorite item on the menu
drive home the same way we always do,
sit on our usual pew,
wear our favorite pair of jeans no matter what else we own.
So when our circumstances force us to move out of the comfortable and predictable, we don’t do well. Unwittingly we have subscribed to the philosophical idea that “the evil we know is better than the evil we don’t know.” Sometimes we even feel this way when it’s the uncertainty of something we have anticipated and worked hard to obtain:
Graduating from college
Getting a new job
Adjusting to married life
Moving into a new place
Starting a new venture
Going back to school
Watching your children move out
These life transitions have a way to reset the familiar and force us to learn new skills, meet new people, and grow in order to successfully navigate our new circumstances.
I don’t know where you are today, but most likely there’s a part of your life going through a transition that might be causing you angst. You might not even have chosen to be in this situation, and you hate the uncertainty it creates, but here you are. Like a unfinished book, this chapter is yet unwritten. Every action becomes words on the pages of your life. While you cannot control someone else’s story, you are the one writing your own narrative. I want to encourage you to embrace this new chapter with its ambiguities and uncertainties and write the best part of your story yet.
What chapter of your life are you currently writing?