You can’t have a sense of personal style without knowing who you are as a person. The fashion Friday posts often focus on a male fashion trend, that for the most part, is very subjective. The fashion gods, and I mean, gods with a very small “g,” decide what’s in and what’s not. But no matter of what the latest fashion might be, you cannot have a sense of style without having a sense of self.
The more you’re set on your convictions and the more developed your world view is, the more you can create the visual part of your persona. They are both tied together. That’s the difference between people who are trendsetters and those who are fashion victims. Those who lack a deep sense of personal conviction and strong sense of self can easily fall prey to the latest fad, no matter how bad or inappropriate it looks on them. I remember thinking “you’re too old and too fat to be wearing skinny jeans,” as I saw a 50 year-old man trying to pull a look off he should never have tried.
You can develop and grow your style as you develop and grow as a person. The reverse, I believe, is not possible. You can only copy and imitate those with style.
So how do you know when you’re developing your own fashion sense? In my experience, stylish people start to describe what they wear in terms of how their clothing and shoes make them feel and how their attire becomes an extension of their personality, a part of their conversation and their story. Once you develop your fashion sense, you are able to walk in a trendy store and say “that’s great, but this is junk.” without a personal style, you look at a sea of options and wonder how to make sense of all of it.
How would you describe your own personal style?